What do you do when you're working your ass off and not seeing the results you expect? Well, really, there are 2 options and in the month I've done both.
Option 1: Get frustrated and pissed. Slack on your workouts, eat like shit and drink more water than soda. Every day, you'll go to bed feeling gross and get more frustrated with yourself and your body. It's a cycle that escalates quickly and ultimately can result in the complete undoing of all of your hard work.
Option 2: Up your game and kick your own ass. Mix it up. Try something new, or push yourself to do one more rep every time you feel like you can't continue. Just one more.
I talk a lot about not focusing on the scale and prioritizing getting healthy and fit rather than being a certain size or weight.
In reality, I'm a damn hypocrite. I tell you not to worry about that number, then I get beyond annoyed when I see mine go up. I have struggled for years and I just want the struggle to be over already. I know I'm not the only one.
So, are you ready for the big truth bomb? Are you?! Here it is...
The truth is this: getting fit is fucking hard. Despite all the articles we see on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, magazines, etc, there is no magic pill or crash diet that will magically make you a size 2 and built like a Sports Illustrated bikini model.
Oh wait, did you already know that? Then here comes the second, and immeasurably more important, part: give yourself a break. Getting fit is really hard and it doesn't happen overnight. Hell, it doesn't even happen over the course of 6 months (go check my pictures if you need proof). This shit takes more time than you want it to, but it will be worth it. In the end, you'll feel better in your skin and happier that you stuck with it and reached your goals.
I don't believe in crash diets or pills, mostly because I've tried them all and none of them offer lasting change, just temporary "fixes" that are undone just as quickly. Getting fit is a lifestyle change and until you're ready to commit to that, you're always going to be frustrated with yourself.
That being said, I have a few confessions. I love carbs. I love cheese. I love soda and nachos. I have the hardest time "dieting" because I want everything and I'll cave within days. Dieting doesn't work for me. I'm a real person who likes to eat real food. You might be thinking "well then you really are fucked. The only way to lose weight is to cut carbs and sugar and processed foods and everything yummy and only eat salads with lots and lots of veggies." You know what I say to that? You are bat shit crazy.
Yeah, I eat more veggies and I'm more aware of the carbs and sugar I eat, but I'm certainly not going to cut those out cold turkey. That's a guaranteed way for me to fail miserably and end up hating myself for not sticking with it. I know that's not a reasonable lifestyle for myself, so I'm not going to set myself up for failure.
That's the biggest takeaway from this article. If you finish this and get nothing else out of it, get this: be reasonable in your expectations. Don't start an expert level workout routine if you haven't exercised in a year. Don't crash diet and expect to lose 40 pounds and have it actually stay off. Ideally, healthily, you should lose a max of 2 pounds a week. Don't set insane goals in short periods of time, or you will fail and you will get frustrated and probably quit. Make reasonable, achievable goals, and stick with it.
I'm pledging to be NerdyandFit, setting reasonable and achievable goals and giving myself a break by not putting too much pressure on myself. I know this process takes time, but I'm not going to give up until I reach my goals.
What about you?
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