The question, dripping with disgust and judgement, as though you were talking about dancing naked in the middle of the highway during rush hour traffic. Why, yes, yes I am still feeding my child arguably the most healthy and best liquid in the world for him.
I have never understood why people would pass judgement on a mother feeding her child, regardless of her method. If you don't want to see it don't look. It really is that simple. You don't need to insert yourself into her situation just to tell her you think she's being *insert negative comment or insult here*, it's unnecessary, it's not going to change how she feeds her child, it makes you look like an ass, and it stresses everyone out. Except the kid, because s/he's happily eating and oblivious to your ignorance and arrogance.
Kylar is 12 months and 20 days old. Yeah, he's still on the boob. Yeah, I can see that you don't approve. No, I don't give a crap. I'm not gonna lecture you on how gross I think it is that you're eating tuna or drinking beer. It's your body, and therefore you can do with it as you see fit. I'm proud that I've been able to feed him for as long as I have and you will not make me feel bad or weird about it. When I stop feeding him, there will be a number of contributing factors: his age, his desire to feed, my ability to keep producing. That's it. For now, my "end date" is when my milk runs out, like it did with Connor at nearly 4 months.
Back in August, before his first birthday, I would be feeding him while hanging out with various family members and they'd make comments (to him not me) like "oh, you're not going to do that for much longer." or "you're almost done with all that." I would always respond, "nah, he can keep going as long as he likes." to their dismay and disappointment.
Why do they care? Why does it matter? I'm not hurting them, and I'm definitely not hurting him! If anything, I should be upset about continuing simply because he's getting back into a biting phase. If anyone gets to complain about my breastfeeding, it's me dammit. For the record: this is not me complaining about breastfeeding. This is me chastising those who complain about me breastfeeding.
The World Health Organization recommends "exclusive breastfeeding is recommended up to 6 months of age, with continued breastfeeding along with appropriate complementary foods up to two years of age or beyond."
La Leche League references a quote from the American Academy of Pediatrics in stating that "the American Academy of Pediatrics reaffirms its recommendation of exclusive breastfeeding for about 6 months, followed by continued breastfeeding as complementary foods are introduced, with continuation of breastfeeding for 1 year or longer as mutually desired by mother and infant." Please note that it says "mother and infant" not "society" "the media" "grandma" "grandpa" "cousin" "sister" "in-law" "random bystander" "stranger on the street" etc. MOTHER AND INFANT. Literally no one else's opinion really matters. Yes, my husband can and will weigh in with his opinion, if I ask, but he's never going to tell me when to stop. A) because he's not that guy and B) because it's not up to him.
If you want to breastfeed your kid(s) well into high school or college, that might be pushing it, but as long as they're healthy and loved, I really don't see why you shouldn't keep doing what you're doing for as long as you damn well please. You have my support, momma. Go feed those babies!
Get your daily Nerdy fix by following us on Instagram
Writer and Contributor for the Motherhood Community