There's something to be said about a friendship based 100% on honesty and trust without even the slightest fear of being judged.
Of the 3 aforementioned people, there is one that I know I could reveal anything about myself, no matter how weird or twisted it may be, and I will receive no judgement, no "wtf?" if it is something too weird; we'll have a conversation or two about it, and move on. It's amazing, and it goes both ways.
I think everyone needs people like that in their lives. I know friends always say "you can tell me anything", but often times 'anything' just means anything they are comfortable with. It rarely literally means anything.
In my experience, people get very judgey if it's something they don't understand. Personally, you can tell me literally anything and I'll talk to you about it. If you need advice, I'll do what I can to put myself in your situation and offer insight. I might be completely off-base, but I'll try. I have many quirks and things that make me "not normal", it took me a very long time to accept that. It took me even longer (in fact, I still struggle with it) to accept that there is no such thing as "normal".
If you have an issue, talk to someone. If you have an issue with a specific person, talk to that person. If you need a sounding board to get your thoughts straight before talking to someone, I'm always here.
I've been on the receiving end of judgement too many times to ever want to turn that on someone else. I will not judge you. I might ask questions, maybe a bunch of questions, but it's only so I can fully understand what you're saying or thinking.
I used to mock the phrase "ride or die friends" because I thought it was silly. I still think the wording is silly, but I have a better understanding of the meaning now.
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