I've talked before about the importance of self care and making yourself a priority, but it's an ongoing thing. As parents, we tend to neglect ourselves in an effort to take care of everyone else. We really must stop that. (I say, after spending the last 3 weeks dealing with various stages of a cold and nearly losing what little sanity I had left.)
We were hit hard with a viscous cold virus a couple of weeks ago, and we're still working the last of it out of our systems. My husband was taken down by a flu-type sickness. Thankfully, the boys didn't get it, but it was still pretty hellish. Mike was down for the count for about four days, which meant I was really flying solo for the entirety of the kids' sickness. By the time everyone was feeling back to normal (mostly), I was done.
*Enter Super Hero Hubs*
Mike knows I've been on edge lately. I've messaged him on numerous occasions something along the lines of "I quit" or "I'm over today/my life/this shit" and "I'm going to lose my shit." Several times last week, I separated myself from the boys, either locking myself in the bathroom or stepping outside for 5-10 minutes to cool off (but figuratively and literally). I was on the edge and ready to jump into the abyss, just to get some peace and quiet.
I created an event in our joint calendar entitled "Writing day?" for Friday, and invited Mike, to see if that would be a good day for me to disappear for awhile and throw myself into my words. He immediately accepted.
On Friday morning, I loaded up my bag with a printed copy of everything I'd written so far (because it had been so long that I honestly couldn't remember what was going on with all of my characters" the laptop, and headphones. I kept delaying and doing more crap around the house. By 10:30, Mike grabbed the keys, and my bag and practically shoved me out of the house and told me not to come back until after nap time.
We all need time to ourselves. "Me time" doesn't have to be exclusively alone, just kid-free and focused on your own personal needs. Do the thing that makes you happiest and helps you let off the steam that has been building for however long. Even if you only manage to squeeze 20 minutes to yourself, try and do it regularly. I promise, you will feel better and your family will be grateful for it. If you need some ideas for free and easy self care options, check out my guest post for Kidloland here.
What is your go-to self care activity? Share your favorite way to unwind in the comments!
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