The start of the new year is usually when people decide to make drastic changes in their lives: quit eating a certain way, start eating a certain way, go to the gym everyday, read more, watch TV less, get outside, be active, be present, etc. All of these are GREAT things, but people tend to be overzealous, plan to do too much, then quit within a month because it's too hard.
Making a New Year's Resolution always seems like a great plan. You kiss you loved one(s) at midnight, to start the year off right, then attempt to dive right in and change all the things about your life or yourself that you dislike. The problem isn't with the intent to improve, but with the way we go about making these decisions.
I was always one of those "go to the gym" resolution-makers. I had a gym membership for nearly 2 years; I probably went 20-25 times in January, 15 times in February, and by March I was over it. Kept paying for it though, because I kept telling myself I'd go back. I'd get back in the grove. I'd get back on track. The only reason I stopped paying for it was because we changed banks and I never went back to the gym to give them our new information so they could continue to take their cut every month.
Last year, I didn't make a resolution, but I did set a goal. A goal I did not achieve and was very bitter with myself about for many months. I'd always said I wanted to get back into the 130's by my 30th birthday. Well, my birthday was back in July and I'm still weighing in at 175. I think it's safe to say I did not achieve that goal. I was so frustrated with my lack of improvement that I nearly quit all together and let myself go.
My Intentions for 2018
I. Health and Wellness I intend to add more vegetables into our diet and workout 6 days a week. 6 days seems like a lot, considering I've been out of the routine for awhile, but I think I'll find it more manageable if I broaden my definition of "workout". Instead of meaning a literal workout routine, typically from Bikini Body Mommy or Fitness Blender, I want to open my definition to include going for a walk around the neighborhood with my boys, playing tag for more than 5 minutes, running around outside, going for a bike ride, etc. I've been very hard-lined about what constitutes "working out" and have often found myself frustrated and disappointed in my lack of energy because I didn't want to get up and workout after having taken the boys to the park and chased them around for half an hour. For some reason, the park didn't "count" as working out. I think by broadening my definition, I will be able to let myself enjoy my fitness more because it won't be a chore or a "have to" it will just be something fun I do for myself.
II. Financial My intention is to pay something off this year. I'm not that picky which bill or loan we pay off (my car, student loans, the loan for the windows, etc) but I would love to have one less bill every month, so I intend to pay one of those suckers off this year.
III. Relationship Bringing back DATE NIGHT! We used to go on a date on the first Tuesday of every month. It didn't matter what was going in our lives, the first Tuesday was always date night and we never missed it. I'm not sure exactly when we lost track of dating, but we've only been on sporadic dates since becoming parents. We are bringing date night back, baby!
IV. Personal Read. I love books. I have an addiction to buying books. The problem is that I tend to buy and never read. This year, I intend to read as much as I can. I've been getting back to the books over the last few months and I'm hoping to at least read 1 book a month, but I'm not officially setting any numerical goal. I just want to read more.
Here's your homework: Make a list of all the things you'd like to see happen in your life this year. Categorize them like I have shown you here, then prioritize within your categories. Make more broad intentions, so you aren't restricted and you will have set yourself up for success in this brand new year!
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