As moms, we always think we have to be all things for everyone all the time. That's absolutely crazy. No one can be everything for everyone 24/7. It's insane to try and it will almost certainly make you lose your shit.
Yes, motherhood is a nonstop gig, with breaks only when they're sleeping, assuming they are good sleepers. "Break time" usually consists of catching up on housework like laundry, cleaning, cooking, putting away the dishes, etc, or squeezing in a little trash TV and feeling guilty for neglecting the aforementioned housework.
The most important thing you can do as a mom is make sure that you set aside time for yourself. even if it's only thirty minutes a day where you sit in complete silence and do absolutely nothing, you need to do it. Your family will thank you later. The older your kids get, the easier this will be to achieve, so for you moms reading this with two kiddos under 2, just remember that it does get easier. You cannot neglect your own mental well being in deference to the well being of others. It won't work out well for anyone in the long run. Your family needs you to be ok, so make sure you are. Give yourself a break, regularly, to blow off steam in whatever way works for you.
3 years ago, when I was still teaching, I would go out and get manicures regularly. I loved having my nails done and it was always fun to go with my work wife for a little girl time to decompress about the students, admin, and biological offspring. I honestly haven't had the free time or money for that in the last few years, but I still make time for myself.
My go-to options now are audio-books in the bath, actual books in bed, and the mom version of Netflix and Chill: binge watching Netflix and snacking on cookies/popcorn/chips.
There are plenty of options for Mommy-me-time and I highly recommend you try them out until you find one (or several) that works best for you.
We all know that being a mom isn't easy. We have pressure put on us from every angle: our parents, our friends, our extended family, strangers, the media, any religious affiliations you might have, the kids themselves, etc. Not to mention the immense amount of pressure we put on ourselves to be perfect and do it all. Sometimes, we all need a break, or else we'll crack and end up in the next Bad Moms flick. Hilarious, but I think we can agree that they went a little overboard. Remember the grocery store? Yeah.. you don't want to be banned from your local food supplier.
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