I'm a very open, tolerant person. I'll happily listen to your side of things and discuss "hot topic" issues with you, as long as you are equally respectful. I rarely put forth the effort to block someone or leave a group on social media because I'm lazy and it's easier to just ignore whoever. That being said, I left a group this week.
I don't recall the name of the group, and I doubt I'd mention it if I did remember, but it was some group on Facebook specifically for pregnant women. You can message the admin a question, and they'll post it for everyone to respond. This week (yes, it's only Wednesday), there were at least 4 questions/posts by FTM (first time moms) who were scared of giving birth and were planning to "just get a c-section" like somehow having major abdominal surgery was an easier option. Seriously? Most of the comments were women telling horror stories about their birth experience, both vaginally and c-sections. Not exactly helpful, and I ultimately took the extra 2 steps to remove myself from the group.
Why is it a common belief that a c-section is an easier birth experience than vaginal birth? A woman's birth canal is meant to push a baby out. Having your stomach and abs sliced open and your internal organs moved around is not the way nature and biology intended for babies to come out. Yes, obviously it happens, but (as I was telling my sister a couple days ago) I would never recommend choosing that route unless it's strongly encouraged for medical reasons by your medical professional.
I think there's something seriously wrong if you honestly believe surgery is preferable to what your body was designed to do. Trust me, as someone who didn't have a lot of choice, if you don't have to get a c-section, try really hard not to. It's not fun and they won't let you eat again until you've passed gas, some places will wait until your first post-baby bowel movement. And when you're not allowed to eat 8 hours prior to the surgery, you will be quite hungry.
We need to correct this insanely common misconception. C-sections are not the easy way out when it comes to giving birth. I've never done it any other way, so I can't speak to the ease of a vaginal birth, but I do know that the female form was designed with birth in mind, and that design did not require being cut open. If you have the choice, and it's not medically risky, I always encourage women to go vaginal. At least try to. It's how we were built, it's natural, and (from what I understand) the recovery time is typically much quicker.
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