Over the last month or so, I have been told by several people that I've inspired them to be healthier, drink more water, workout, eat healthier, etc. The last one makes me laugh, to be honest, because we aren't healthy eaters. Since becoming a SAHM, I cook more, which could be perceived as "eating healthy" but it's actually just because I'm cheap and saving money anyway I can. But, hey! If that motivates you, go for it!
The problem, I'm finding, with being accidentally inspirational, is the pressure I feel to be 100% transparent and honest about how all of this effects me on a daily basis. What I do and how I handle third trimester with a toddler. How I manage to get a workout in ever, much less several times a week. Let's not kid ourselves here, toddlers aren't exactly great workout buddies and I don't like the idea of giving money to a gym every month, so working out at home is my preferred method. So, here's how it works for me: prioritize.
I make it part of my weekly routine to workout at least 2 (ideally 3) times. The workouts aren't hard and they only take 20 minutes. If I can't carve out 20 minutes a day for myself, I'm doing something wrong. I don't like to workout when Hubby is home, because I'm incredibly self conscious and I hate the idea of him seeing me looking "goofy" or "stupid". On rare occasions, I have left him downstairs with the kid, banned him from our room, and worked out watching the videos on my phone. Not my preferred choice, but it gets the job done.
I don't always accomplish my 3 times a week goal. I try workout Sunday, Tuesday and Thursday, after nap time and before I start cooking dinner. Most weeks, that works out great. This week, it didn't. I didn't feel like working out yesterday. I have been beyond stressed, anxious, and extra hormonal the last couple days and it finally all crashed on me yesterday (panic attack and everything). So, instead of working out, I ate 2 candy bars and drank half a 20 oz of Dr. Pepper. Oops. I was in a better mood by the time hubby got home, so I'm not going to worry about it. Instead, I worked out today to keep with my 3 days.
Everyone slips. Everyone fails. The important thing is how you react to that slip, that perceived failure. Do you give up and say "it's just not going to work for me" or do you get back up and try again? Life can and will kick your ass every so often. Focus on what you can fix and have faith that the rest will work itself out. (Trust me, I'm terrible at the second part, but I'm working on it.)
I see a lot of posts about "fit moms" bragging about how healthy they are and how great it is for their whole family and borderline shaming other "non-fit moms" or trying to make them feel guilty for not being super fit people. I am not a fit mom. I am a mom who wants to show my kids that you can live a healthy lifestyle without changing everything about who you are or how you live. Yes, we still eat out. Yes, we have candy and soda and dessert. No, we don't eat a lot of veggies. We aren't a "fit family" but we are healthy and we take care of ourselves. I think that should be the focus and priority for any family. Do what works for you.
Get your daily Nerdy fix by following us on Instagram
Writer and Contributor for the Motherhood Community