SAHM- Stay At Home Mom
I love, love being able to stay home with our son. This is my dream. I substitute teach a little on the side, and selling Scentsy helps bring in at least an extra couple hundred a month, which is fantastic, but my husband works incredibly long hours (10-12 hr days) which enables me to stay home and raise our son.
I've got Connor on a sleep schedule that allows him to stay up late and hang out with his daddy at night for a couple hours. He gets sooo excited when he hears Hubby coming in at night. Dropping whatever he's doing and heading for the door, then they place "I'm gonna get you" for several minutes and cuddle. It's freaking adorable. I wish he got to see his dad more, but those few hours every night and the weekends are so amazing.
Now, I love spending so much time with Connor, but when Daddy comes home, Momma needs a break. Dad does bedtime almost every night now (to the point that if I do it, I'm doing it wrong and Connor seems confused). Friday mornings (our version of Saturday mornings thanks to hubby's schedule) I don't want to get up with the baby. I get him to, because Momma needs some time. Honestly, for the first half of the day on Friday, I want to be the back up parent, not the on-call parent. I don't want to get him when he first wakes up, change him, brush his teeth, and feed him breakfast. I want to be the one who takes it slow in the morning. Just for the first half of Friday. Then I'm good.
I know it sounds selfish, but I'm literally "on" 24/7. I want 3 or 4 hours, one day a week, where I can just be a person for a little while, not Mom or doggie caretaker or maid or chef or any of that crap. Just for a couple hours a week, I want to take a long shower, shave my legs without rushing, do my hair and make up. You know, be a pre-kids girl.
Hubby is usually pretty good at accommodating me, even though I suck at articulating this feeling to him because I know he's been working 10-12 hours of hard, manual labor all week and he wants to relax and sleep in too. I try and keep the balance for us, having him be the primary with Connor Friday morning, and then I'll take the title back for the rest of the weekend around lunch time on Friday. Literally, just a couple hours to recharge and I'm good to go!
I've had conversations with other mom-friends of mine who think I'm being too passive because I don't want to make him do too much. Maybe I am, but I am a passive person. Ask anyone, I will do pretty much anything I can for anyone I know. To the point that I often end up doing too much and regretting it. But! If you are the person I'm doing too much for, you'll never know. I won't complain to you or tell you I can't help. I can help. I'll figure it out. That's who I am. I can't say no to people. I've been told it's a problem.
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