I was talking with a dear friend of mine, writer and creator of TinyHumanNewbie.com (go check her out!) and she made me realize that I haven't shared my birth story with Connor on the blog. At first, I thought that was insane, but the more I searched through old posts, the more I realized that it made sense. When I started this blog, he was nearly a year old. I was so focused on the here and now that I didn't even think to share the story of his birth.
A little over a year ago, I switched from cloth to full time disposables. It wasn't a decision I was thrilled about, but our cloth diapers were really nearly 2.5 years old. The elastic was stretched beyond usefulness, and the inserts were no longer doing their jobs. I was annoyed with their failure to last as long as I wanted (although they did last for a long time, I just had unreasonable expectations) and I was frustrated. Instead of replacing the cloth we had, I decided it would just be easy to by disposables. I wish I hadn't done that.
I've been thinking a lot lately about who actually reads my blog. Who am I talking to when I write? Who am I hoping will read this and feel something (hopefully positive) towards my words? Who am I trying to reach?
I'm done breastfeeding. I will never again use my body to feed another human being (barring some sort of crazy Donner Party-esque event). That does make me a little sad, but I am so proud and grateful that I was able to feed both of my boys for as long as I could.
If you Google or Pinterest search for "newborn must haves" or registry ideas/suggestions, you will find literally hundreds, if not thousands of things you "need" before you bring your baby home, and hundreds more things you "need" to get through the first year with your new babe. I'm gonna simplify all this for you right now and give you a very short list of the things you actually need for your baby.
I was in your shoes just 11 months ago. I read all the articles and research I could find to help make the transition as smooth as possible. I was anxious and nervous about how Connor would feel and I was especially sad that I would be loosing that one-on-one time with him.
Over the last few months, I’ve been working to minimize our lifestyle. We have too much crap that we never use and I’m sick of the overwhelming about of stuff in this house. I’ve managed to clean out our clothes (I did mine and the boys, hubs took care of his own) and book. Now I’m slowly culling the toys, but we’re entering that dangerous time of year: Birthday season. Connor’s is in August and Kylar will have his first birthday in September. Buying presents is always fun, especially when it’s toys for kids. However, since we already have so many toys, this year I’m requesting outside-of-the-box presents. I’ve decided to put together a list of gift ideas for anyone looking to buy for preschoolers, but don’t want to buy toys.
Vacations are fun. That's common knowledge. If they weren't fun, people wouldn't go places and everyone would just work all the time. No. We need vacations every so often to help reset our brains and keep us sane.
Traveling with small children is a whole new level of stressful and might seem like more work than it's worth. I'm here to tell you that it is doable, and it might even be easy!
I often find myself thinking "If only they were bigger, then we could do *this* or go *there* or play *that*" then a few minutes later, one of them will do something "big" or I'll go through their clothes and pull out things that are tiny and think "They are growing up way too quickly." It's ridiculous and silly. I want them to be bigger so we can go on more adventures and I can stop changing diapers, but I want them to stay little and snuggly and sweet. I know this is a common predicament: The Parenting Time Paradox.
I have always hated the phrase "boys will be boys." It's used as an excuse to justify bad behavior and/or being a jerk-face dick. I'm sorry, but since when does a penis give you a blank check to be aggressive, messy, mean or misbehave? I don't accept that.
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